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Nov 12 07 10:35 PM
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evikeaz wrote: Thanks guys for not jumping down my back about Anne Marie's looks and it's JMO. I wasn't talking about getting a girl with supermodel looks either...just a better than average pretty girl for our James. I guess I've placed him so high on this freakin' pedestal already that I'd assume he'd have someone better looking. But, hell, that's me ..not you all. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and she's attractive that's a given. I appreciate the comments and I did see a YouTube red carpet moment where she spoke and she looked quite lovely...so there ya have it. Again, thanks for letting me give my opinion.
Thanks guys for not jumping down my back about Anne Marie's looks and it's JMO. I wasn't talking about getting a girl with supermodel looks either...just a better than average pretty girl for our James. I guess I've placed him so high on this freakin' pedestal already that I'd assume he'd have someone better looking. But, hell, that's me ..not you all. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and she's attractive that's a given. I appreciate the comments and I did see a YouTube red carpet moment where she spoke and she looked quite lovely...so there ya have it. Again, thanks for letting me give my opinion.
Well as I said, I wasn't sure what opininion you were giving, but if you were saying she has big ears I agree with you. However if you would have said in your first post that you didn't think she was pretty enough for James I would have probably bitten you head of.. (well maybe not.. but I would certainly have taken offence) so good for you for seeing how wrong that assumption/opinion was before you said it out loud..
I think this has to do with jealousy. Am I right? And I can totally understand jealousy Evi, so I do understand where this is coming from. I have suffered from jealousy a great deal in the past, but you have to realise that the pain your are feeling is not being caused by the people you are jealous of. It is being caused by you. So it is not fair to take it out on them. Even if they can't hear you and you think it makes you feel better (it doesn't by the way, it only seems that way for a short while), it just makes you act mean.
So if you learn to see that difference and are able to stop yourself from acting on your jealousy, you will still feel that pain, but at least you will stay a nice person and won't have reason to dislike yourself as well.
There is also a way to get rid of the pain though. Try to see how your 'relationship' with James is completely apart from her relationship with James. It does not affect your 'relationship' with him at all. It makes absolutely no difference to your life whether he is married or not and to whom.
Now if you can see that the pain will go away. Maybe not right away but over time when you learn to deal with the feeling better. Took me years, but it is bothering me a lot less now and that is a great feeling.
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